• PugJesus@piefed.socialOPEnglish
      191·
      8 days ago

      Speaking as a man with social anxiety, men are socialized to express themselves more assertively and aggressively, while women are socialized to express themselves with a more yielding and pliant tone.

      This isn’t about social anxiety or lack thereof. The top can be confident, and the bottom can be nervously falling apart. But the gendered division in how our culture teaches men and women to communicate is very real.

      • pirc_lover@feddit.uk
        2·
        8 days ago

        Tbh I don’t think it’s that deep/I’m not that bothered by this post, which is why I replied in a joking tone rather than going Balls out Call out, but I do think these jokes can be negative influences.

        Humour plays a major role in our socialisation, and replicating women as submissive and men as assertive in our jokes just serves to reinforce those internal narratives.

        I have self esteem issues, and I recognise that self-deprecatory humour — even when I do it ironically and in a self aware way — is still harmful to me because it reinforces the way I view myself, and I’m trying to shift that pattern to self aggrandising because it does the opposite.

        I’d draw a parallel in that using these stereotypes — even ironically — places these narratives as the null hypothesis.

        Again I don’t think it’s that deep/this isn’t a personal attack, but that’s why these jokes rub me up the wrong way.

      • pirc_lover@feddit.uk
        61·
        8 days ago

        Untrue! Women are smol shy uwu bean who knows best but is too uwu to say so

        Men are brash shouty horse people who know nothing but spray it with confidence

        Tap for spoiler

        Why do we keep fucking inventing the 60s sitcom with the know it all housewife with the depressed smug smile and the thick husband who gets his way through blunt force patriarchy. We’re better than this.

        • endless_nameless@lemmy.world
          5·
          8 days ago

          Brash shouty horse people got me so good lmfao

          Edit: We are actually not better than this. Anti-intellectualism is on the rise, wearing the clothes of intellectualism. The concept of nuance itself is facing total annihilation. Discussion of political and social matters resembles team sports more than any proper discourse. Expect the worst from people and you’ll rarely be surprised.

  • MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de
    15·
    8 days ago

    As a man, please try to understand how much and how often I wish I would be proven wrong, I’m begging you. I’m like Mister Meseeks over here: life is pain, or I’m missing something huge. Let me in on the secret!!!

  • AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.socialEnglish
    8·
    8 days ago

    I’d like to introduce you to a Common Karen.

    Also to any man suffering impostor syndrome.

    What they portrayed as woman-only is anxiety and insecurity based.

    The man-only portrait is basically being a wilful ignorant.

    And oh boy do they all exist in any kind of flavor…