Speaking as a man with social anxiety, men are socialized to express themselves more assertively and aggressively, while women are socialized to express themselves with a more yielding and pliant tone.
This isn’t about social anxiety or lack thereof. The top can be confident, and the bottom can be nervously falling apart. But the gendered division in how our culture teaches men and women to communicate is very real.
Tbh I don’t think it’s that deep/I’m not that bothered by this post, which is why I replied in a joking tone rather than going Balls out Call out, but I do think these jokes can be negative influences.
Humour plays a major role in our socialisation, and replicating women as submissive and men as assertive in our jokes just serves to reinforce those internal narratives.
I have self esteem issues, and I recognise that self-deprecatory humour — even when I do it ironically and in a self aware way — is still harmful to me because it reinforces the way I view myself, and I’m trying to shift that pattern to self aggrandising because it does the opposite.
I’d draw a parallel in that using these stereotypes — even ironically — places these narratives as the null hypothesis.
Again I don’t think it’s that deep/this isn’t a personal attack, but that’s why these jokes rub me up the wrong way.
Speaking as a man with social anxiety, men are socialized to express themselves more assertively and aggressively, while women are socialized to express themselves with a more yielding and pliant tone.
This isn’t about social anxiety or lack thereof. The top can be confident, and the bottom can be nervously falling apart. But the gendered division in how our culture teaches men and women to communicate is very real.
Tbh I don’t think it’s that deep/I’m not that bothered by this post, which is why I replied in a joking tone rather than going Balls out Call out, but I do think these jokes can be negative influences.
Humour plays a major role in our socialisation, and replicating women as submissive and men as assertive in our jokes just serves to reinforce those internal narratives.
I have self esteem issues, and I recognise that self-deprecatory humour — even when I do it ironically and in a self aware way — is still harmful to me because it reinforces the way I view myself, and I’m trying to shift that pattern to self aggrandising because it does the opposite.
I’d draw a parallel in that using these stereotypes — even ironically — places these narratives as the null hypothesis.
Again I don’t think it’s that deep/this isn’t a personal attack, but that’s why these jokes rub me up the wrong way.