It depends. It’s not usually like in porn (which usually looks like work because it is)

If it’s with people who want to have mutual enjoyment in a caring way it can be amazing, but even one selfish person can bring the whole thing down and make it feel like a chore.

Men are more likely to be selfish.

I got paid a lot of money once to go dogging, and it was very unpleasant and not worth it. Meanwhile, a weekend-long foursome with 3 other women is one of my most cherished memories and a go-to to think about if I feel the need to Jill off.

Now I’m older I don’t think I’d want to do more than a threesome with two women, though. It takes a certain amount of fitness that I just can’t maintain any more.

Basically, yes. Some men are so twisted in knots from toxic masculinity they’ll avoid enjoying themselves, even when what they want is right in from of them

Good point, I only looked at the thumbnail!

Loving the birds on the boobs, you were smart to keep them off to one side!

Oh lordy yes, tattoos … my mother drilled it into me when I was a kid that only prostitutes had tattoos, and I took that negativity on board in a weird way.

I got my first tattoo a couple of years after I’d finished doing regular sex work

Yeah, having some in-jokes certainly helps me feel less weird when there’s some behaviour I can’t mask, etc (eg. being in physical pain due to the noise at a crowded bar, for example)

I don’t want the sort of relationship where I look that bored while out and about with my partner :-/