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  • I don’t even identify as white. My DNA has more in common with North Africa than with the Anglo-Saxon groups that created the concept of “being white”, so you should check your prejudices

    Sorry, can’t let this go. This is the whitest fucking shit I’ve ever heard. Bro, non-white people don’t fucking choose how to identify. They are identified and have to deal with how they’re identified. The fact that you think you can choose to not identify with whiteness screams of the fact that you’re absolutely steeped in it.


  • Especially if you’re white and you just don’t want to go bald cause “then you’ll be old”.

    My direct quote, it’s interesting that that doesn’t say what you said it does. I’m not saying this isn’t a struggle for white people, silly. I’m saying that they have less to grapple with losing. Even if they have the same level of connection to community through their hair, losing that won’t other them from an intrinsic part of their identity. That is a lesser loss, which was my point and the reason why I emphasized that.

    Completely ignoring the thousands of different ethnicities

    I’m not ignoring shit, dude. You asked what being white had to do with it, I gave a counter-example of someone who isn’t white losing something deeper than a white person could face in the same situation. I don’t need to explain that hair is a big part of many identities to demonstrate my point or cover every possible group that it could possibly apply to, just that it isn’t the same for white people.


  • Brother. Comrade. Friend. I assumed you’re white because you think that racism is a thing in the past. That it’s an icky, immoral thing for history textbooks and not something that anyone deals with today. I assume you’re white because you defend white people in a scenario where they’re privileged and that privilege shields them from the reality that others face. I assume you’re white because when I give an example of what this experience is like for a non-white community member, you immediately center whiteness in your rebuke. You assume that speaking of the white experience as what it is is somehow racism.

    Whiteness isn’t some failing of race, it’s a systemic knowledge gap where white people assume themselves the default race and they think they can easily project their experiences onto other communities. They don’t know the struggles of other communities because they aren’t forced to confront how racism impacts their experience. White privilege isn’t something that gives them a leg up, it just means they don’t have to grapple with racism in their day-to-day lives.



  • Brother. As a white person, if you need a haircut you can go to any salon. Your hair isn’t under constant scrutiny. Your default hairstyle isn’t treated as something dirty or wrong. You don’t experience othering or ostracization because of your hair.

    You, as an individual, can choose to have your hair be a connection to community. That can be a beautiful thing and losing that might be devastating to you, as an individual. A black person is thrust into community because of their hair because of systemic oppression. It’s a struggle that brings everyone in that community together. You can’t separate one from the other. Every black man who loses his hair loses this integral connection he has to his community.

    White people’s connection to community through their hair is a choice, black people’s connection to community through their hair is a survival tactic. That’s why they’re fundamentally different. You can choose, they have no choice but to do so.


  • Pretty sure plenty of white folks go to black barbers, and plenty of back folks go to white barbers.

    Yeah, and that shows your level of ignorance here. Cosmetology and barber schools don’t teach about black hair types and difficulties. White is default in these places and black hair care is considered a “specialty” skill. A black person can’t just walk into any barbershop. Well, they could but it’s unlikely anyone knows how to help them.

    I have to be done here, but this is definitely a blind spot for you. Maybe look into it?