「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」

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Cake day: April 28th, 2026

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  • According Chinese society: 38 would be too old, nobody would want you.

    Dad was 31 and Mom was 24 when they married, you’re late to the train according to them.

    My older brother is 28, he’s on a trip to China right now to supposedly meet “marriage candidates”

    Mom is pressuring him cuz “once you get older nobody would want you anymore” 🤔

    I’m 23 and mom is already jokingly like: “Hey I know this person’s daughter, do you wanna meet and ‘maybe become friends’?” (heavily implying marriage) I just fucking laughed… I’m so depressed I can’t even take care of a cat, how am I supposed to start a family lmao… I need to fix depression first…

    Once when I was in my teens I heard mom want me to “hang out” with her best friend’s daughter and “become friends”… lol… maybe she should’ve thought about that before moving away from Brooklyn where they lived… we used to live like right across the street from them… but rent is a big hassle and parents wanted to have home ownership thats why we moved to Philly…

    and I have been to their house… I’m shy af and didn’t wanna talk…

    Yea I’m gonna be forever alone… I don’t even have the courage to talk to people lol…

    Btw: Arranged Marriages =/= Forced Marriages

    You have the choice to “veto” in an Arranged Marriage, but not in a Forced Marriage.

    The “Arranged” is referring to who’s in the captain steering the ship, so parents and relatives are heavily involved in the matchmaking process and looking for “candidates”.




  • I think it’s because: “If love wasn’t the reason to get into a marriage, then lack if love wouldn’t be the reason to get out of a marriage” (I read this from some random forum/website and it actually make so much sense).

    In Traditional Chinese marriage, they look at practical stuff like if they have the wealth, housing, career, to raise children… that sort of stuff… love is secondary ti those things…

    So in my parents time, people of marriage age would just get introduced to those who are also of marriage of the opposite sex. And like if they feel okay with it, they just settle and get married.

    I think once I ask my mom why she went with my dad, she said something like “he doesn’t smoke, he doesn’t gamble, he doesn’t drink”… like… lol…

    I feel like a lot of people in China have those aforementioned problems.

    They’re still married to this day… I doubt they have much sex besides for procreation so like… probably only those 2 times creating my older brother then me…

    My mom is kinda scary tho, she once went full tiger mom mode and threatened to divorce my dad… because some stupid disagreement… and I was a teen during that time… kinda messed up my mood… I mean that feels world shattering if it happens… so… luckily it never did.