I live in a tiny ass town where the only two ways people socialize with strangers is drinking and maybe gambling and even then this is not a very social area. I am a currently sober alcoholic and even if I liked gambling I don’t have the money for it. Thoughts on how I can date ‘correctly’?
That’s advice on the level of “Just take a small 10 million dollar loan from your father.”
Laughably unserious.
You need to meet the people where they are at.
I moved recently, and nearly died as a result. It was hell. And I got lucky too. I’ve moved 10 times. Each move was hell. I never benefitted from moving. I just treaded water. I often moved because I had to, not because it was good, and by often I mean each time. Often one aspect would improve while another would go into the toilet. Not a single move was a pure win or a solution to anything. Fuck every trashcan out there that casually, completely mindlessly, suggests moving like moving is so easy, like it has no downsides, like moving is a solution, like moving is affordable to anyone any time, etc. Fuck that kind of “advice.” Fuck every trashcan out there with this kind of “just take a small 10 million dollar loan from of father” style of advice. Or like “just learn how to code.” Another trash advice. In fact 99% of all life advice is trash.
I mean… what do you want me to tell you? I moved to a big city the moment I turned 18. I then moved a bunch of times, and then immigrated. I’m broke, bro. I still did it. I put my shit in the back of my 15+ year old volvo and moved.
Based on the downvotes, ya’ll salty and hating, apparently. And refusing to take personal responsibility for your loneliness. Go outside. Visit a hackspace. Meet some furries. Have some depraved sex at a convention.
Edit: Thread full of people unable to take control of their lives and unwilling to make sacrifices for their futures.
I’ve moved plenty and you don’t see me ever casually suggesting it to a stranger on the internet. Not once.
There is no one, no one ALIVE, who doesn’t know about moving. Likely the person you suggested it to moved 5 times already and knows more about it than you. It’s very possible.
Eat shit with your shit advice.
The person was asking about dating and you told them to move without knowing a damn thing about their life or preferences. It’s really dumb.
Unfathomably based. Moving is a fucking nightmare 99% of the time and having a good chunk of expendable money only cuts how shitty it is down a bit, it still sucks. Especially if you’re moving far from your family and friends.
Tell me about it. Even moving to a cheaper area is usually too expensive upfront. This shit is just barely above fiefdom and fuck anyone pretending otherwise.
The ol “my life experience is universal” argument I see. I did move, everything I own fits into a backpack and a suitcase. I’m in this tiny ass town because it is where I could get a visa because I’m fleeing the US before they execute my trans ass. If I leave now we’re talking flushing literally tens of thousands usd down the drain on the off chance I manage to find another way to get a visa somewhere else.
So as far as dating goes again I’d love to know what the correct way is if not apps, and I’m vetoing “risk my life” options like moving.
For what its worth, there’s a lot of trans people in the furry fandom. If you can get past the cringe, you might find someone you like. And theres a lot of furries. Theres probably a fair few closer than you think
“Have you tried being a furry chaser” is not what I expected but I suppose it does meet my given criteria, plus it’s an app so I’d say we all win this one
I live in a tiny ass town where the only two ways people socialize with strangers is drinking and maybe gambling and even then this is not a very social area. I am a currently sober alcoholic and even if I liked gambling I don’t have the money for it. Thoughts on how I can date ‘correctly’?
Move.
That’s basically what the rest of us did.
That’s advice on the level of “Just take a small 10 million dollar loan from your father.”
Laughably unserious.
You need to meet the people where they are at.
I moved recently, and nearly died as a result. It was hell. And I got lucky too. I’ve moved 10 times. Each move was hell. I never benefitted from moving. I just treaded water. I often moved because I had to, not because it was good, and by often I mean each time. Often one aspect would improve while another would go into the toilet. Not a single move was a pure win or a solution to anything. Fuck every trashcan out there that casually, completely mindlessly, suggests moving like moving is so easy, like it has no downsides, like moving is a solution, like moving is affordable to anyone any time, etc. Fuck that kind of “advice.” Fuck every trashcan out there with this kind of “just take a small 10 million dollar loan from of father” style of advice. Or like “just learn how to code.” Another trash advice. In fact 99% of all life advice is trash.
I mean… what do you want me to tell you? I moved to a big city the moment I turned 18. I then moved a bunch of times, and then immigrated. I’m broke, bro. I still did it. I put my shit in the back of my 15+ year old volvo and moved.
Based on the downvotes, ya’ll salty and hating, apparently. And refusing to take personal responsibility for your loneliness. Go outside. Visit a hackspace. Meet some furries. Have some depraved sex at a convention.
Edit: Thread full of people unable to take control of their lives and unwilling to make sacrifices for their futures.
I’ve moved plenty and you don’t see me ever casually suggesting it to a stranger on the internet. Not once.
There is no one, no one ALIVE, who doesn’t know about moving. Likely the person you suggested it to moved 5 times already and knows more about it than you. It’s very possible.
Eat shit with your shit advice.
The person was asking about dating and you told them to move without knowing a damn thing about their life or preferences. It’s really dumb.
Unfathomably based. Moving is a fucking nightmare 99% of the time and having a good chunk of expendable money only cuts how shitty it is down a bit, it still sucks. Especially if you’re moving far from your family and friends.
Tell me about it. Even moving to a cheaper area is usually too expensive upfront. This shit is just barely above fiefdom and fuck anyone pretending otherwise.
The ol “my life experience is universal” argument I see. I did move, everything I own fits into a backpack and a suitcase. I’m in this tiny ass town because it is where I could get a visa because I’m fleeing the US before they execute my trans ass. If I leave now we’re talking flushing literally tens of thousands usd down the drain on the off chance I manage to find another way to get a visa somewhere else.
So as far as dating goes again I’d love to know what the correct way is if not apps, and I’m vetoing “risk my life” options like moving.
Ignoring being a bitch there for a second:
For what its worth, there’s a lot of trans people in the furry fandom. If you can get past the cringe, you might find someone you like. And theres a lot of furries. Theres probably a fair few closer than you think
The mainstream normie apps are trash.
“Have you tried being a furry chaser” is not what I expected but I suppose it does meet my given criteria, plus it’s an app so I’d say we all win this one
You’re the one struggling to find people and community, and not wanting actually -do- anything about it.
I dunno, seems like a you problem where you’re painting yourself into a lonely corner.