• Mulligrubs@lemmy.world
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    24 hours ago

    Not having kids, every time I have any remorse I spend some time around kids and their parents, in about 5 minutes I’m good

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      4 hours ago

      I’m in the same boat, except I’ve never felt any kind of remorse. How often do you feel it?

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        21 hours ago

        This is an interesting nuance. I find most children annoying, and I don’t want any of my own, but the love I have for my niece and nephew is bigger than I ever could have imagined.

        I guess there’s always room for exceptions.

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          18 hours ago

          I hadn’t planned on kids or marriage. I’m so thankful to have both.

    • ☆ Yσɠƚԋσʂ ☆@lemmy.ml
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      23 hours ago

      Same here, having watched how the lives of my friends who had kids changed reaffirmed the decision of not having any for me. You basically have to be prepared to dedicate next couple of decades of our life to raising kids and not doing much of anything else. And you end up giving up the freedom to do things like move to a different town or try a new career. Your primary goal in life becomes having stable income to raise your kids.

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        4 hours ago

        The whole “not much of anything else” mellows out as they get older, and you can even share those interests with your kids. I loved the whole process of going to amusement parks with my daughter, watching her go from enjoying but also being terrified of the small ones, to getting used to those but doing the same for the medium ones, being nervous about going upside down, then seeing it wasn’t such a big deal and now loving the big ones as much as I do and we got to experience the most intense one I’ve ever ridden for the first time together.