Because no one I’m seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It’ll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn’t have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.
You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.
Because no one I’m seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It’ll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn’t have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.
You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.